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Are you hesitating to map out your future?
If you just let it unfold, would you consider the possibility that you’ve mapped it out anyway?
Choose to map your future with a coach, and you engage a co-traveler for your journey. When you journey with a coach, you amplify your abilities to efficiently reach your desired goals, and create successful outcomes.
Are you ready to create a map of your future?
What is your destination?
Even if you aren’t certain of your destination, you do know the territory intimately. That territory is your inner knowing. You discover and reveal your latent goals by responding to the questions your coach designs just for your needs. As you answer their questions, you turn your concern, project, or situation upside-down to expose its end-point. Revealing your desired end-point, you clarify your goals and create your ideal destination.
Now that you’re clear where you want to go,
Why do you want to get there?
Knowing, your purpose, in a clear, meaningful way, reinforces your commitment, regardless of the challenges along the way. As you journey with your coach, you clearly articulate the intention behind your undertaking, and cultivate your inner compass.
What will it be like when you get there?
As you discuss your goal, and reveal your sense of purpose, you recognize how your destination will effect all aspects of your life and/or work. What will develop as you create what you want? What will you have when you get there? How will your work or life be different, in just the way you want it to be? Creating these clear expectations of what your experience will be like while you are achieving your goal, and once you get there buoys your endurance.
How will you get there?
The journey to your outcome may be a smooth and even road, or it might require cutting a new path, blistering work, and creating strategies for reassessing and navigating obstacles. Now that you have sense of purpose for taking on your journey, you have staying power regardless of the challenge. As you answer your coach’s questions, you create your tool-kit for achieving your goals. While creatively planning your future in a non-judgmental environment, you chart the most efficient and effective path for your journey. When you round corners that require a difficult approach or are out of sight-lines, you have the grit and tool-kit to reassess and revise your plan with your own creative approach.
How might your coach support your journey toward your goals?
As a collaborator on the journey, your coach spots you as you navigate obstacles, challenges you to return to your journey if you get distracted or discouraged, and provides tech support if you need to reset your compass. You lead the way, setting the pace. Your coach trusts that your intuition, abilities, and creativity will reveal to you your own solutions. If you get mired in a muddy path, your coach will flash a signal mirror to reflect your criteria and thinking process, and/or provide some fuel to jump-start your creativity about next steps. If appropriate, your coach might ask you whether it is time to send up flares for additional resources (in the form of information gathering from other sources) and/or offer general options you could modify to create your own best solutions.
Your coach supports you to find joy in the beauty of the journey, not just the destination. Mis-steps are opportunities for shared humor and reconsideration of next-steps. This shared vulnerability provides for deep attunement, shared development, and collaborative creation of the path to your desired destination.
When you reach your destination, you know that the journey, success, and end-product are your own and that your coach was there only as a partnering guide.
Q: How will I know I’m ready for a mentor session or to submit a recording for my EPC (Erickson Professional Coach) or ECPC (Erickson Certified Professional Coach)?
A: Well, first you have to start recording coaching sessions!
Have you recorded your coaching sessions yet? Not sure how to get started recording or worried about the results? Feeling Stuck? Here are some answers and questions to help you get started. (Consider answering the questions in italics as you read the article to get you on the path to your EPC or ECPC)
Which Coaching Sessions Should I Record?
The more sessions you record, the more comfortable you get with the process of recording, as do your fellow learners and clients. Start with your Erickson colleagues, particularly the colleagues that you are most comfortable coaching. After you practice with your colleagues, move on to the more challenging types of sessions, and then on to your clients.
What About Technology Concerns?
It’s not just about getting comfortable knowing that you are being recorded, but it’s also about getting comfortable with the technology.
What About Coach To Client Confidentiality?
“Hello, this is Milton Erickson, with Jane on September 15th, 2016 at 830 am PST. Jane, do I have your permission to record this session? And Jane, as we’ve discussed, this recording will be kept confidential, but may I ask your permission to share this recording with my mentors at Erickson Coaching International who will delete it as soon as they’ve listened to it?”
Minding The Arrow.
Laminate a copy of the Arrow, the Logical Levels Graphic and the As-If Shift Graphic, and any other graphics you find useful. Put them in a prominent location on your desk. Which graphics would be most helpful for you? How will these and other graphics support you to be the coach that you most want to be? What else might you do to easily mind your learnings while immersed in a coaching session?
Schedule a Mentor Session or work with a colleague to support your EPC application.
Prepare for Your Mentor Sessions and review submissions for your EPC.
Are you ready to start recording? Are you ready for a mentor session? Still stuck? What about self-coaching or having a coaching colleague take you through the Logical Levels, a Mentor’s Table, Values Based Self-Image or other exercise to get you there?
Good luck and happy coaching!
“Motivating people does not work. . . What does work? The essence of the answer lies at the heart of the science of motivation and the revelation of three psychological needs— autonomy, relatedness, and competence.” —Fowler, Susan (2014-09-30). Why Motivating People Doesn't Work . . . and What Does: The New Science of Leading, Energizing, and Engaging (p. 33). Berrett-Koehler Publishers.
As an Erickson trained, solution focused coach, I use inquiry to encourage my clients to design their own actions, plans and accountability in collaboration with me as a trusted partner. This type of collaboration satisfies Autonomy, Relatedness, and Competence (ARC), the three tenants of what works for people who are looking for motivated engagement in their work and life.
Autonomy = I'm confident that my clients have all the resources necessary to create their solutions. I provide a open-minded space for them to access their inner resources.
Relatedness = My clients and I develop a trusted relationship through authentic, courageous, and compassionate collaboration.
Competence = I am certain my clients don't need to be fixed: rather, they are OK! I know they can an will make the best choices for themselves from a positive intention, especially during guided reflection about their goals.
Designing Actions with ARC in mind
Through individualized inquiry, my clients develop creative, client-designed action steps thats link to all the parts of their life: environment, behaviors, skills, values, identity and vision. As my clients recognize all of these linkages, they attain sustainable momentum towards their goals.
Planning and Goal Setting with ARC in mind
Through individualized inquiry, my clients create their clear expectations for achievable goals and timelines. These goals and timelines are linked through the all aspects of their lives: environment, behaviors, capabilities, values, identity and vision. With these linkages my clients broaden their vision from central focus to to the peripheral boundaries of their knowing; thus, solidifying their resolve and perseverance as they attain their goals.
Managing Accountability with ARC in mind
Through individualized inquiry, my clients become engaged leaders of their own lives. They become their own authority determining the who, how and when for seeking accountability. They assume responsibility for creating the support structures they need to meet their goals. When these choices for managing their accountability are their own, they act with virtuosity and endurance towards their own greatness. Their motto becomes: “Don’t worry, I got this”.
Solution Focused Coaching . . .
Cultivate your dreams with care:
Imagine the possibilities. Connect them to your values.
Develop your options. Plans A, B and C.
Recognize the greater benefits. Hone in on what’s most important.
Become your oak tree, Emerge from your egg, Create your dream!
Awareness is the first step to change.
For me and my coaching clients, awareness and an opportunity to reflect on what we've noticed creates an opportunity to bring change and a willingness to challenge the edge of our skills and capabilities. This challenge for change results in experimentation and growth in what we imagine is possible. These open-mined possibilities allow us to create initially unanticipated and then well-developed changes that bring positive impact in all aspects our lives.
When do I experience awareness that motivates my change?
When I’m asked to:
For example my Masters Swim coach, Barbara, creates awareness through breathing exercises, stroke counting and cadence metronomes. An hour’s workout might encourage us to experiment with different breathing patterns, increasing and/or decreasing our normal stroke count per lap, and/or varying our cadence with the use of a metronome hidden in our swim cap. Barbara gives us a process for creating awareness and then asks to notice what we experience. What keeps us aerobic? Under what conditions do we become anaerobic? What cadence is easy? A challenge? Why? Because of the depth of experimentation and awareness through noticing in a non-judgmental environment, I’ve created a flexibility with what kind of experience I create for myself in the pool. It’s fun and translates to other sports and my life in general.
I also work with two talented pilates instructors. They see beneath their client’s skin, and provide cuing for balanced body awareness. Because of some old injuries, I have patterns of adaptation to structural imbalances. By providing exercises that give me the opportunity to recognize my tension patterns, they support my awareness of movement patterns outside of the studio. So, I’m able to extend the lessons to everything I do that challenges my posture, tensegrity, breathing, and balance, e.g. cycling, swimming, skiing, running, gardening, preparing food, working at my sitting and standing desks, and even how I sleep. Being aware means that I recognize imbalance before it becomes tension.
As a business and life coach, I support my client’s awareness about the change they are seeking by asking open, resonant, salient questions, by sharing cues, and/or by modeling behavior that they are seeking to incorporate in their lives.
The next step in the cycle of change is to reflect on and verbalize what we've noticed about our experiences. Personally, I always get a deeper and more actionable result when I reflect with one of my coaching colleagues or through journal writing.
Lastly, it's time to make behavioral modifications, and this is the the challenge to change! As a coach, I support my clients to use the experiential learning cycle throughout their life as a meaningful model for change.
This past weekend, I was privileged to attend the GISC Community Gathering. Here are my reflections on the Plenary Session, “Resistance from a Gestalt Perspective,” led by Mary Anne Walk, MS, MBA, MCC and Stuart Simon, LICSW, PCC.
Ohm = the electrical unit of resistance . . . . But it's funny, “resistance is futile” if I choose to exercise my Ohm.
So, I wondered, “when do I feel resistant?”
What happens if I exercise my Ohm when I feel resistant?
My Ohm behaviors are pausing, breathing, expanding my perspective, and engaging in curiosity:
When I exercise my Ohm, I notice an opportunity to create compromise, be relaxed, keep my perspective and accept someone else’s.
What about you? What are your thoughts about your own resistance?
By listening deeply to our clients, we provide a space that allows our clients to experience truly being heard. As coaches, we listen with non-judgement. This judgment free zone (JZF) opens-up the potential for trust and relationship between coach and client and within the client themselves.
In the JZF, our clients experience the possibility of reframing their own judgements. And as they reframe concerns, problems and situations into the world of solutions and possibility they enter a creative and resourceful state that allows them to actively and meaningfully make choices in pursuit of their goals.
Listening as a coach is about the speaker’s:
With coach’s ears on, everything else falls away. By deeply listening to tone, body language, and pacing, we support our clients as they create:
Try on a coach’s ears in your own relationships.